Fear of success or fear of failure? Most people, if asked, would automatically say they have a fear of failure. But in my experience, it’s fear of success that paralyses most people.
On the face of it, this appears counter intuitive. Surely, if we run our own businesses or work within an organisation, we have the drive, ambition and vision to be as successful as we can be? No-one consciously sets out to fail, that’s just bonkers.
However, it can be our inner ‘head tapes’ that will stop us. Our head tapes being those inner messages we give ourselves every day. Most people do not live in the present moment, where anything is possible. Instead they live in turmoil, of past events and future fears, trapped on the merry-go-round of angst and uncertainty controlled by their ego. Our ego is the conditional and judgemental part of our minds, that will try to protect us from harm and stressful situations. We need it, but unfortunately the ego can become too big for its own good!
What would life be like if you could eliminate the painful memories and the fear, entering the unconditional and supportive space of the present moment? The present moment that is not contaminated by past experience, and will not doubt for a single second the potential for your immense success. It will also not judge you for wanting it, striving for it and becoming it. Your unconditional present self sees you as perfect and able to achieve anything.
However, most people will live their lives dependent on the views of other people. People bond over bad news, it’s a lot easier to join the club of disenchantment and struggle, than it is to step out of the circle and be different. To quote the first few lines of the wonderful poem by Marianne Williamson:
Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate,
Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure
If we all embraced our personal power, what would people think? Everyone would surely think we were too big for our boots wouldn’t they? That we were just showing off? Our friends would desert us, we would leave them behind wallowing in the murky waters of their resentment and bitterness, we would be lonely and isolated…
Any of the above ring bells? Well guess what? By not embracing your personal power you are disempowering everyone around you as well as yourself. You are allowing people to remain in their destructive mind-set and you are denying the world of your talents and gifts. It’s only once we allow ourselves to shine, that we empower other people to step out of negativity into the light of positivity. If we enter the unconditional centre of the present, live and breathe our gifts to the world and have the courage to express them, we become part of the collective tipping point. The tipping point of joyful and stress free-living, of positivity that has the power to change the world. You encourage people to follow you, as your energy is so compelling everyone will want to be where you are.
And remember, your true friends will always be happy for you. If you do end up leaving people behind, that was their choice, you only have responsibility for your life, not everyone else’s. Live it to the full – you were born with amazing talents, not to share them with the rest of the world is selfish, and I know you’re not that person. I know you are the person who has the courage and conviction to be joyful, positive and inclusive and take the rest of the world with you to the dizzy heights of success!